If you want to increase intimacy with your partner, the new year is a great time to reevaluate old habits and start new ones. You’ve decided to do so much for yourself, so why not make a concerted effort to have fun this year? It may seem awkward, but it’s actually a great way to start the new year with a bang.

First, you need to set aside some time to talk to your partner about what worked and didn’t work in the bedroom this year. Before you structure your resolutions themselves, it’s important to assess both of your needs. Take some time to do this together, perhaps after dinner or while you’re making your New Year’s Eve plans. Go into the conversation prepared to say what you need, but also to listen to what they need.

“I encourage couples to lean into the hope of the new year,” says Dr. Lori Davis, a board-certified clinical sexologist in New York. That’s a positive place to start. Instead of seeing shared resolutions as a way to address grievances, be positive about all the great sexual experiences and intimacy you can find in the new year. As Davis says, “You can make changes in your sex life and find more pleasure, ease, and intimacy.”

She advises becoming “an erotic team that works purposefully to create a sex life that works for both of you,” so ask yourself and your partner what that looks like and how you’re already doing it in other aspects of your life.