If you’ve ever seen a sex scene in a movie or porn, you’ve probably wondered what it would be like to star in your own naughty film. When your curiosity gets the better of you, here are a few things to keep in mind, including tips for choosing the right co-star, finding the best angles, and keeping your video safe.

Before we get into camera angles and lighting, let’s talk about safety. Before you unleash the sad trombone on us, think of all the high-profile horror stories about account hacking and revenge porn. Unfortunately, making a sex tape is not a decision you can take lightly.

Of course, it’s hard to predict what someone might do in the future, especially if you trust that person enough to have sex with them now. Victims of revenge porn have probably never thought, “You know what, this person seems really dirty and untrustworthy, but I’m going to go through with it anyway.” We literally expect to get fucked when we make a sex tape, but we don’t expect to get fucked figuratively.

The bottom line is that you need to be incredibly thoughtful and careful. You should only make a sex tape with someone you trust with your life. That may sound dramatic, but leaked sex tapes have literally destroyed lives (and businesses). Don’t let anyone pressure you into it. It’s also worth giving yourself time to think about the decision; it’s not like you have an opening weekend deadline! If you have even the slightest gut feeling that something is wrong, don’t go through with it.